true confessions of a #girlboss.
It's hard to know exactly when you've made it. I would say that most days feel like more hustle than actual victory, especially when, if you're anything like me, you're balancing multiple aspects of your life at any given time. In short, I want it all but I also want a nap.
Finding Sophia Amoruso's podcast "Girlboss Radio" helped me realize that I'm not alone and that even really successful women feel the same way. From to Charlize Theron to Amel Monsur, it's not uncommon for wildly successful women to be strong and complex by day and nonstop creative by night. On a really good day, this is just one way I describe myself. The truth is, in finding yourself, there are so many ways in which you can describe all that is you and capturing you and your purpose can be a very involved and length process. And so, while I attempt to do just that, here are some surefire ways that you can feel like a girl boss while also crushing your goals:
1. Do what you love. This might sound cheesy and easier said than done but stay with me here. From the time I was a toddle to as recently as two days ago, I have been a dancer. Before I had regular access to a studio where I could blow off some steam, I would dance around in my basement, with or without pointe shoes, and choreograph my own pieces. We're not all made to open our own studios but we can all find ways to make our passions a part of our livelihood. Now you can find me in the studio every weekend, trying to teach my littles how to love the lessons I learned from creative movement.
2. Don't panic if your success isn't linear. I'm not sure if what I'm doing now is what I'll be doing for the rest of my life but I do know that I'm picking up some valuable skills, refining my work ethic and learning what I'm truly passionate about. My first jobs were baby-sitting, a children's event planner and in retail and I've taken aspects of all of those jobs to make myself a better employee, co-worker and person.
3. Feel yourself. When you walk into work every day feeling like the girl boss you are, your self-esteem is going to rule your day. From the time you sit down at your desk to your walk past that reflective building on your lunch break to catching a glimpse of yourself in the mirror in the bathroom while simultaneously thinking, "Who's that girl?". If you put enough effort into your look, you feel like you own the day. And who doesn't want a Monday that feels like that?!
4. Just be nice. I'm constantly amazed by the women I meet who aspire to have or are in leadership roles and think that respect comes from being condescending or dismissive. Furthermore, it kind of makes me laugh the number of times I have actually wanted to Google "how to deal with a difficult co-worker". (True story: Once I spent an entire workday with only one other co-worker who said nothing to me all day except through e-mail. And we worked a foot away from each other.) People who work with you will work better if they feel like they can actually work with you. There's no need to make things harder than they have to be and there's never a need for passive aggression.
5. Know what you're good at. As much as I try, I know I'm not good at multitasking. Sure, I can make it work but I don't know how anyone likes feeling panicked and balancing multiple sets of instructions at the same time. What I am good at is being organized, planning ahead, creating a game plan, analyzing my outcomes and being prepared and that is what makes me successful.
6. Listen to failure. Nobody learned anything about risk by getting it right all the time. Whether you define this as a beak-up or a business idea gone awry, there is an invaluable amount that can be learned from picking yourself up and starting again.
7. Work your worth. Some of the most frustrating work experiences have been those where I was consistently doing more than what was being asked of me and it was actually costing me. I'm typically the kind of person who isn't afraid to take on more than what is being asked of me but if you are a part of the team, you're the only one working on nights or weekends and being paid less than everyone else, it's time lean in and asked to be compensated appropriately.
Got your own tips to share? Comment with your best gilboss-y tricks for others to learn from your success!